[dduckwessel]

pamela, on 31 December 2011 - 09:30 AM, said:

sure sounds good to me
spellchecker? erm no, dictionary.com

the "where's my spellchecker" was a part of the topic heading

[pamela]

dduckwessel, on 31 December 2011 - 09:53 AM, said:

the "where's my spellchecker" was a part of the topic heading

oh heheh!

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pamela, on 31 December 2011 - 05:24 AM, said:

oh, no one goes easy here, duck, female or not, so feel free to be yourself knowing full well we treat both genders equally

I must disagree Pamela; I'm almost certain that I noticed a distinct difference as soon as I said that I was female [the exception being Turtle (no disrespect intended) but even there I think that he too toned it down].


However, I don't want to be presumptuous - we must ask the gents themselves...

[dduckwessel]

I wonder if I can add my summation in respect of the OP (seeing as we have got far from it)!

If women don't do the mothering, then who will? And everything hinges on whomever does the mothering to do a good job. One would assume that regarding such an important societal need, much more time and effort (education and finance) would be spent ensuring its success. Good mothering is not instinctive, it's learned. I personally think that the Swedes are closest to getting it right.

[pamela]

dduckwessel, on 31 December 2011 - 10:47 AM, said:

I must disagree Pamela; I'm almost certain that I noticed a distinct difference as soon as I said that I was female [the exception being Turtle (no disrespect intended) but even there I think that he too toned it down].


However, I don't want to be presumptuous - we must ask the gents themselves...

hmmmn hadn't noticed. I reckon everyone should speak for themselves. I was merely referring to the moderators and admins as having witnessed our responses over the years- I should have clarified.

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pamela, on 31 December 2011 - 12:22 PM, said:

hmmmn hadn't noticed. I reckon everyone should speak for themselves. I was merely referring to the moderators and admins as having witnessed our responses over the years- I should have clarified.

Happy New Year.

I now think that it may have been that many of the males were thinking about the topic and had just not worked it out in their own minds yet!

CraigD's post is thought-provoking and it has been heavy on my mind. This is the kind of information that both women and men need to be forearmed before they have children but sadly a good portion of them are not exposed to it.

Did you notice the difference between our parenting skills? You let your chilren learn 'hands on' (which is as it should be), whereas I sewed the costumes, etc. For much of it I did not get my children involved in the process! Granted I was so busy I think some of it was just that it was easier (and faster) for me to do it! However, that's not the proper method for helping children to learn!

[dduckwessel]

MacPhee, on 30 December 2011 - 10:40 AM, said:

That sounds such a good ruse! Male, wakened in night by raucous infant. Annoyance. Solution- convey infant surreptitiously to somnolent female. Plug infant into mammary glands. To suckle, left/right. Female stirs: "Oh...what's that honey?" "Hush dear, go back to sleep". Unplug infant, now satiated and quiescent. Carry infant back to crib thing. Resume male slumber. (I think the burping, changing, cuddling bit, was probably of short duration. Or largely imaginary)

You might pick up a few pointers from Donk, MacPhee! He has his priorities straight. His wife was probably sleep deprived from caring for an infant and this kind of help would be very welcome.

[pamela]

dduckwessel, on 01 January 2012 - 08:24 AM, said:

Happy New Year.

I now think that it may have been that many of the males were thinking about the topic and had just not worked it out in their own minds yet!

CraigD's post is thought-provoking and it has been heavy on my mind. This is the kind of information that both women and men need to be forearmed before they have children but sadly a good portion of them are not exposed to it.

Did you notice the difference between our parenting skills? You let your chilren learn 'hands on' (which is as it should be), whereas I sewed the costumes, etc. For much of it I did not get my children involved in the process! Granted I was so busy I think some of it was just that it was easier (and faster) for me to do it! However, that's not the proper method for helping children to learn!

Happy New Year!!!
Well it really comes down to how you were raised. My dad was eager to share his interests and hobbies, and I was eager to learn. My mom was more into reading and writing so I absorbed that as well. And of course, when I was old enough to help, she was all over that.I remember being about age 3 and using a lint brush to clean the carpeted stairs
Give yourself some credit duck, raising 5 kids takes some serious dedication,love and strength beyond measure

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pamela, on 01 January 2012 - 08:39 AM, said:

Happy New Year!!!
Well it really comes down to how you were raised. My dad was eager to share his interests and hobbies, and I was eager to learn. My mom was more into reading and writing so I absorbed that as well. And of course, when I was old enough to help, she was all over that.I remember being about age 3 and using a lint brush to clean the carpeted stairs
Give yourself some credit duck, raising 5 kids takes some serious dedication,love and strength beyond measure

Thanks for the encouraging words Pamela I shouldn't cry over spilt milk as we are not doing too badly: one's a 3rd year plumber/gasfitter, 2 are in university, one's applying for the police force and the youngest (15) wants to go into engineering upon graduation.

Here's the link to the autism thread and perhaps when you get a chance you can tell me about that diet you have your son on, thanks :
http://scienceforums...er/page__st__15