Ok I undertand that you start writing the name with group with the most carbons, but I still don't understand how do you know where to start numbering if you have 2 of the exact same groups at two different spots. Like if you have two ethyl groups. As far as having the smallest numbers, for example in a ring you could have the groups at the 1,3 positions or the 3,1 positions depending on how you number the ring. In this case the substituents are the same. Also, do you always number clockwise?