Marriage does it work.

[InfiniteNow]

My first marriage.?.....................a nightmare at best....hell on earth....a fairly accurate depiction!

And that's just how SHE felt! :cup:

[DFINITLYDISTRUBD]

Heeeyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

No need to be a meanie!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[moo]

Marriage is (or should be) a serious commitment, and like any other major undertaking should not be attempted until the maturity level is sufficient to the task. There is no "magic" age, but if your idea of a really good time is partying all night, then I suggest waiting a while.

 

One major problem IMO is couples that fight and argue a lot before marriage, and then get married anyway. Sheesh, a bookie wouldn't touch those odds.

 

Another is getting married too soon in the relationship. It takes many months to really know someone and learn how they react to good times and bad. If you do/did get married soon and it works (which does happen occasionally), you are extremely lucky.

 

Btw, having kids does NOT "bring you closer together" if you can't freakin' stand each other in the first place.

 

And finally... Marriage can work, if both are pulling for (and not against) each other.

 

Just my

 

moo :cup:

[IDMclean]

Alright if I follow the intent of the thread I think I can respond to this.

 

Marriage as a closed two person institution can and does work. However the system in place and the implicit system may not foster the behaviors which are most befitting of the human social creature. Particularly in regard to the Male-Female ratio.

 

What I mean is, historically, despite various forms of propaganda, humans have not engaged in pair bonding as their primary form of long term relationships. That is marriage is a new thing relative to the scale of human history (100K years+).

 

Take my people for instance. I am mostly Scottish and Irish. Clans, marriage not only to the person you are courting but to their family as well. Promiscuity (modern day sense) probably reined supreme in that model (and similar models) of familial relations for the majority of the Celtic history.

 

Now some might argue that this is specific to the Celtic people, however from my studies of history I would not limit this status quo to just my people. Studies of various cultures, modern and otherwise, indicate a propensity for multiple partner relationships.

 

The reason for this to me is clear. 1 man can produce over 700 children in his life time (A Sultan of Morocco sired more than that). 1 woman on the other hand can only produce a rough maximum of 50 children in her life. Keeping in the old saying that 1 woman can produce 1 child in 9 months, but 9 women can not produce 1 child in 1 month. Taken together with a propensity for woman to hold the high ground in the man to woman ratio, mortality rates and other such things.

 

A resource on the subject.

Socially imposed monogamy

 

I am going to stop because I can't remember what my point was.